Kindly Listen

This is one of the best lessons that life has taught me.  Something everyone needs to follow in their lives.  It's the art of listening.  Here I am going to discuss what this simple listening can do to your friend.  When your friend talks to you about your worries we at times don't bother to listen, knowingly or unknowingly.  It really hurts your friend.  People generally say their problems to those whom they feel reliable, lovable and whom they feel they are at ease.  When he/she approaches with some sorrow and pours his/her worries it's like a slap on one's face when we refuse to listen.

Listening to problems has a great role to play in medicine too.  Doctors and nurse develop this quality which helps to cure their patients.  Many patients who are in a pitiful state with the disease ruining their life, the time the doctor spends listening to patients' worries cures them before hand.  When you listen you assure that you still love them, you want them to get better and you spend your most valuable asset, your time.  No gift can be more precious than the time you spend listening to someone.  Never shrug off and quit when someone wants you to listen, they say you with this hope that you will bring peace to them.  So, next time when you are wanted to listen be happy that you are going to make someone settle in tranquility.

Gender and Friendship

Hello ppl !! Back to blogging after a long time.  Fine.  Let me start this season with a common yet so sensitive topic that discusses the influence of gender in friendship and if at all gender has any role in friendship.  We all live in a society, of course this 'all' refers to city dwellers, in which job opportunities are equal for men and women, where people are very social, where there is no shyness in moving with the opposite gender.  These are the brighter side of the issue that gender has been removed out of focus when it comes to employment and commerce.  There is yet another, not much openly discussed issue which analyzes the effect of gender in friendship.

Well, friendship is a beautiful relationship which involves two or more people who understand each other and stand by each other in all circumstances.  It is a selfless binding where one does expecting nothing in response.  What role has gender got to play in this purely personality based relation ?  Personality here means what thoughts the person is made of.  Two people like each other and become friends because one likes some character or trait in the other.  The trait is unique to each person and absolutely has no influence from the gender of the person.  People are bound together with this admiration for that trait which attracted them to be friends.  It's too mean to bring in gender here and spoil the very sancity of friendship.

The yet another pitiful incident being the narrow mindedness of the very broad minded society, as it calls itself.  Try to look relationships between the opposite gender in the name of sacrifice, care and affection, rather than in the name of mere attraction.  People don't realize how deep the wound is that they cause by insulting friends of this sort.  The irony is that when people start to look on this narrower prospective, they tend to feel that friendship with opposite gender is a sin and stay aloof from the masses, ultimately ruining themselves.  So, next time you see a boy and a girl as great friends think before you utter words not in good will of those friends but on your own future as stated just above.